Are you ready to
get off the treadmill
and become the person
you know you were
born to be?
Elevate Your Life
Where Are Right Now?
Time for a change?
I Want to Improve My Relationship
If you’ve been dating for a while, living with your partner, in a long-term relationship or marriage, there might be concerns you have or things you want to change.
Unlike Hollywood, or fiction romance stories, real relationships have real issues to deal with. Devoting time to your relationship can be at the bottom of your list because you:
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Are exhausted as parents
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Have frayed nerves
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Dealing with work stress
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Feel stuck in a rut
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Feel overwhelmed
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Or a gazillion other things
During difficult times, it’s easy to ignore your relationship issues, but this can lead to even more problems and a less fulfilling life.
So, my friend, whatever is going on for you, bring it into our sessions.
We can together work out what you’d like to change and foster growth in your relationship so you can both have a more fun, intimacy and a satisfying relationship. No, an even more wonderful relationship!
Should I Stay In My Relationship?
Sometimes it’s hard to know what to do. Should you stay where your needs aren’t being met and you aren’t happy, or should you leave and face more uncertainty. That’s the million dollar question, isn’t it? I know it can be a scary decision to make because these decisions involve a lot of confusion and “what-if’s”.
I can help you process these confusing thoughts that have been swirling around in your mind for some time, to give you more clarity. There’s no one-size fits all answer. So, we can tailor your counselling journey to fit you and your needs. Whatever you decide, I’ll be there to walk that path with you.
Stay or Go?
Which way do I turn?
We Are Separating:
Separating sucks. It causes a tsunami of emotions, reactions and unusual behaviour for both people involved. Do you remember that old movie, The War of The Roses? Check it out and you’ll know what I mean. Pain, anger, rejection, guilt, sadness, vengeance, hostility and/or relief are just a few of the emotions that can overwhelm us.
And what about the kids? When children are involved, it just complicates things so much more. They can get caught in the middle, feeling lost and abandoned with conflicting emotions of parent loyalty as well as self-blame.
It’s hard, I know.
I can offer a safe space for you to talk, and to help you navigate this difficult and emotional transition in your life, giving you support and strategies that will empower you to make the best decisions for you, your family and your future.
You are not alone.
Always remember this.
Healing After A Break Up
Breakups can hurt us mentally, physically and emotionally. It’s built in to our inner being via evolution to feel as if our very survival depends on staying together in our tribe, so there’s no wonder breakups feel so horrendous.
You are not just grieving the loss of a person, but also the life you had together and what might have been.
This, combined with abrupt chemical changes we experience, such as a drop in dopamine and serotonin (the feel-good chemicals), can leave us with a type of withdrawal and cravings to be reunited with our ex.
You can feel immense grief, sadness, loneliness, betrayal, anger, hopelessness and withdrawal. Whichever way you put it, breakups are the worst and it’s so important to seek help if you are struggling.
I’ll give you a safe space to share your experience, your fears and your grief. I’ll give you techniques that will help to cope with those horrible feelings, so you can heal in a healthy way that leads to growth, self-care and empowerment.
Empowerment
Big Decisions?
Divorce
As well as dealing with the overwhelming emotions that separation and break-ups can bring, divorce throws in a bunch of other practical issues to deal with. And, this is at a time when we can still be struggling emotionally from our break-up.
This can include, organising new homes, splitting up belongings and finances, and deciding custody around children. These tasks in themselves can feel like a huge mountain to climb.
I’m here to help you navigate the difficulties and practicalities of the divorce process because I’ve been through it too.
It’s really common to have physical, cognitive and emotional issues during this time and I can give you techniques to help you cope and move forward.
I’m Ready To Plan My New Life
This is both a scary and exciting time when you realise that you can start again and create your own life. It can be a great time to embrace new ideas, and to try all those things you have always wanted to do.
Get that bucket list out girlfriend! However, it can also be a time when you feel directionless and lost, and not sure what you want to do.
We can discover your hopes and dreams and work together to get you there. I can help you alleviate any anxieties and fears that may be holding you back. We can identify and work to change any behaviours that no longer serve you.
Whichever path you want to follow, I’ll be here to walk it with you. I love helping women create new lives for themselves.
Which Way Forward?
What's Next?
I'm Stuck In My Comfort Zone Captivity
Sometimes when we’ve been through difficult experiences, we seek a safe place to rest, recuperate and pause for breath. Sometimes we can get stuck here, because it’s a safe place where we don’t take any risks. If you’re anything like me, it can look like a wearing baggy PJs, curling up on the couch and munching chocolate chip cookies.
Although a comfort zone can provide us with that time to heal, it can also steal our hopes and dreams. And girlfriend, we can’t have that.
If you have any anxiety that is keeping you from living a more fulfilling life this is something I can help you overcome. We can work on together to empower you with confidence to live the life you want. You deserve it!
I Think I'm Ready To Date!
When we’ve had a break from dating, (for some people it can be decades), it can seem like a really scary prospect. It can be a time where our fears and anxieties from previous relationships rise to the surface. This is where I come in, to help you get prepared and ready to date again!
We can unpack your fears and worries and I can help you with techniques to recognise old patterns from relationships that you don’t want to repeat. Let’s clean out the cobwebs!
We can look at what your needs are in a relationship, what are your values, and your relationship goals. We can also look at your non-negotiables and how you can avoid them and maintain healthy boundaries.
You will dictate the pace and together we will go on a journey into the world of dating. How exciting!
Let's Get You Ready.
Is He Out There?
Help, Why Can't I Find My Perfect Partner?
I hear you! Despite my best efforts, I was in a continuous cycle of dating the wrong men. I spent years researching where I was going wrong by studying psychology and analysing my dating experiences. It took a few years to hone my strategy, but I really hit the jackpot when I did.
My strategy really works. It’s designed to fit every woman’s individual needs. The dating game can be such an emotional rollercoaster ride and is an area that I believe you and all women could do with some sister-support in. So, I designed a 30-day course to help you fast-track finding your perfect relationship.
It’s the same strategy I used for myself. I was beyond frustrated with the men dated. They were not the men they pretended to be.
When I stuck rigidly to my own strategy, I met my amazing other-half Dan, within three weeks! I honestly never thought any relationship could be this good, and years later I can still say the same.
Wherever you find yourself in the relationship cycle rest assured I’ve been there too.
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I understand the mental, physical and emotional pain and injury that can result from the wrong relationship.
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I believe every women has the right to be happy and I will do everything within my power to support your healing, give you valuable insight and skills that will empower to create the amazing life and
healthy meaningful relationship that’s perfect for you.